“Avoid separate vacations like the plague!”
“Make sure you have time reserved for each other.”
“Don’t ever gossip about the other one.”
Rev. Robert Krestick shared these insights with the students of Concordia Lutheran Theological Seminary on 4 April in a special convocation that reflected upon the similarities between marriage and the pastor’s relationship with his congregation. (This presentation was first delivered at Concordia Lutheran Seminary, Edmonton, for their Timothy Lecture in February 2016.)
Twelve such “axioms” were quickly recognizable as good principles for a healthy marriage, but in Rev. Krestick’s presentation they also served as insights into how the relationship between the pastor and the church work out. Similar things are needed: faithfulness, time, charitable attitude, forgiveness, dependability. Even the best marriages require work, and the same is true with pastors and their congregants. Shepherds who invest in their people and consciously take care of their well-being will find that such commitment will lead them to fare better in their ministry and make the task more rewarding.
Recordings of Rev Krestick’s presentation can be found here: